The Dot Com lifestyle features a match made in heaven:
You and your PC.
And with that intimate relationship, it may well be that you’ll combine to seek something even more intimate: one involving another human.
Why not? Online dating is much more logical than the hit-&-miss of everyday life. So much so that in June 2015, for example, over 105million visitors in the USA along hit those sites.
Still, it can be a crazy world out there, so as with any other endeavor, it’s a good idea to look before you leap.
A hard look definitely beats a hard landing.
Here are 11 dating research tips well worth taking the time to do:
1. Ask a basic question more than once.
To gauge their honesty, “ask them a question, and then later ask them the same question in a different way,” says Garth Bruen, security fellow of the Digital Citizens Alliance, a Washington DC-based coalition that promotes Internet safety. One example: Asking where the person went to high school.
2. One-stop-shop in their soul.
Hop on Refresh and see all their latest social media interactions: Where they’ve checked in, what groups they’ve joined, if they’ve changed their LinkedIn job from “accountant” to “body-ripper,” etc.
3. Get an instant background check.
After using DateCheck, you can say — with confidence — that your match has probably never killed anyone. The app runs a full background check on the person you’re potentially meeting for a date: marital status, age, education, and even criminal history.
4. Make an email address just for dating.
Besides helping you stay organized, you can pick an email address that isn’t your full name and have more control over your privacy.
It’s the same principle you should be using in your online business. Having a screening e-mail address helps to keep the junk away; that’s the address you give when you’re asked to stick one on a squeeze page. Later, if you decide you like that contact, you have the option of sharing your more direct details.
5. Set up a Skype account just for hook-ups.
It’s a bitch to change your phone number. What’s not as much of a bitch: Deleting a Skype account. Make one just for online dating and give them your handle once you’re down to meet.
6. Get a deep-drilling Caller ID.
CallerSmart is an app that would make your mother proud. How it works: Type in an unknown number, and it will generate the caller’s full name and crowd-sourced info about that person. Sometimes, it might even link to their Facebook page. In short: Stalking 2.0
7. Do a reverse image search.
Just to make sure that the pictures they posted are actual photos of them.
8. Break it off with zero confrontation.
If you’re not into it for whatever reason, break it off ASAP without a face-to-face meeting. Use Slydial when you call to get sent straight to their voicemail.
9. Ask for a recent photo.
Emphasis on the word recent, because some people will try to get away with sending pictures of them from 20 years ago. If you say recent and still get an old one, it’s time to go. Immediately.
10. Read their face. Like, really.
You just left your first date and something feels amiss. Get a little more info on your own terms. Drag their profile picture into Nametag, which uses facial recognition software to uncover any pictures that feature your face on the Internet.
11. Let friends keep tabs on you with Tag.
Location sharing apps are available and simple to use. So use them.
A bit of mystery might be fun when getting into a relationship. But more than that just isn’t worth the emotional investment. Better to remove as much as possible before starting.
It’ll increase your chances of a real match.